Have you been looking for ways to change your life? Make everything run perfectly as you think it should!
Dammit!
Inevitably you will come across hundreds (if not thousands, possibly millions!) of books, CDs, websites, blogs, articles, etc. on balance. So many titles and different ways to bring into or find balance in your life.
Balance
That elusive wherewithal to conquer your world and your life. To live in full control of every aspect of who you want the world to see you as! To conquer every little detail of everyday and make it all perfect!
Balance can work for some...for a certain time. Balance is very hard to maintain, but any lifestyle changes require some motivation, restraint and a lot of work on your part.
I struggled for years (dare I say decades?!) to balance out work, children, home, spirituality, weight... sanity... dreams! Trying desperately to catagorize and organize every little detailed minute. Trying to bring the June Cleaver, super suburbanite, perfect soccer mom reality into my home!
Repeatedly I found that balance. Those perfect Stepfordish moments when every aspect of my imagined life would seem to meld into a perfectly balanced lie. Like any falsehood, it could only last so long.
I failed repeatedly.
I would fall into a melancholic, deep, dark, depressive funk.
I would freeze up in adject horror as every perfectly balanced, selected part of my life began to crumble around me.
The housework would pile up, bills would go unpaid, my children would act out, my work was smothering me, I would lose my sense of self. My life would become a sad fragmented jumble of a mess!
Eventually some TV show, article or book would come my way and the spark would be lit again.
I would become a "Supermom"! Everything would balance out. Life would become rosie and perfect. All the pieces would start to fall into place...
Until...
One small upheaval...
One small chunk would fall askew and my teetering house of cards would tumble around my ears.
And I would start the sad cycle all over again!
It never lasted because I would select only certain parts of my existence to balance and I would always sacrifice bits and pieces of the most important part of the equation...
...My Self!
Breathing Harmony
I am learning (Yes, I am still my own student!) not to fight the ebb and flow of life. I don't have the "perfect" formula for finding that "perfectly balanced" life, but I don't want to. Better yet, I don't NEED to!
Life isn't about living perfect moments with perfect schedules and perfectly organized homes!
Life is messy. Life can and will get chaotic. Life can and will throw an unexpected something into your perfect path to make you stumble and get your attention. Life is about being able to step out of your comfort zone and know that it is ok!
It is ok!
Harmony is happiness and living authentically.
Harmony is knowing, truly knowing that you can bounce back from any upheavals. Harmony is smoothly moving through the ebb and flow of reality with grace and gratitude.
You can work with the flow of life, instead of trying to fight the currents. To dance to the complicated, ever changing rhythm of life's music and surpass your expectations.
You can learn to Breathe Harmony into your life! To live, learn, and compromise to attain that imperfectly perfect life!
Blessings and Love to All!
~AF~
